Am I making the right Choice?
The Road Not Taken
By Robert Frost
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Life is full of choices, decisions that we must make. Shall we go one way or the other, to get this or that, what do we do? Are we making the right choice? Just how do we, can we know that we have made the right choice and that we should follow the path that we have chosen, or go back and take the other one. Just how do we know what is right?
Things happen in our lives, opportunities come, opportunities go. We can often be beset with misery when we have found that we have made the wrong choice or decisions. When problems arise in our life, we need to make choices to find out why out of those problems, what is the right path, what is the right door to open?
It is often said that when one door shuts another one opens, the problem is, at times, the door, or multiple doors are places in front of us and we need to turn the knob and see which one opens. All to often we decide on a door, and keep trying to turn the knob, it does not work, we try to break though the door, we pound on the door trying to get it to open, and still it remains closed. This can happen to door after door, as we seek the right door, the right path, the right road to take to our future.
In these cases, where we keep pounding on a door, trying to get it to open, we have already made our mind up on which door, which path is right for us, we can become so focused on that door, that we miss other opportunities , other doors, other paths pass us by. We want what we want and that is all that we want. We convince ourselves that this is the right door, the right path, the right road to take that will bring us what we want, that will take us to where we want to go. Then we can become frustrated and wonder why? Why does this door not open? It is the right door, the Lord placed this door before me, why does it not open. We hear The Lord Will Provide I have a book by this title it is available on Amazon. There is also a Kindle version.
I know I have pursued things, tried to take pathways and open doors and walk down the roads of what I though was right. What I believed was the right path, the right door to open and road to take. Each time that I did this, it did not end well. Then, you begin to question yourself, question God and his eternal love and blessings. You also begin to question yourself, and the feeling that a dark cloud has blocked out the sun and that you have become cursed for some reason.
Why don’t things work out for me?
What did I do wrong to deserve this?
What am I still doing wrong?
Why doesn’t the Lord bless and help me?
Simply put, the Lord is blessing you, the Lord is Guiding you, the Lord is providing for you, but you are just trying to open the wrong door, you are pushing to take the wrong path to the wrong road. We become so focused on what we want, what we think is right for the moment we miss out on what the Lord thinks is right. The Lord knows where each door to each path to each road leads. We can only see so far down the road ahead of us, it may look nice, but we cannot see the dangers that lay around the corner, through the brush across the brook. The Lord does though, and he will try to protect us from such.
We keep pushing, pushing and pushing though an that is when we get into trouble. We force our way though the door, break it down! Then we run down the path, run down the road all happy and joyful thinking this is it. Finally, things are coming together, everything is going to be great. Then it happens, we get slammed by something, everything falls apart, life is not so great, and we wonder why?
This is when we question God once again.
The Lord started to bless me, why did he stop?
The Lord set this open door before me, why did he close it again?
Why don’t things ever work out for me?
Things would have worked out for us, but we just pushed ourselves though the wrong door. We took the wrong path and traveled down the wrong road. We followed our own ideas and ways, not the Lords. We followed out own human ego and not the Godly soul. Our ego will always lead us down the wrong path, our soul will lead us though the right door. Our ego is limited in its perception and only recognizes what is right in front of it, what will serve it for the moment. Our soul, connected to God though the spirit is all knowing, and all seeing and will take us down the road that will bless us and grant us what we need for eternity, not just for the moment.
So then, how do we know what door to open, which path to follow, which way to go when we reach the fork in the road?
The answer is quite simple, so simple that many miss it. We can miss it because we are too busy pounding on and trying to break open another door. We miss it because our ego has convinced us to focus only on what we want for the moment and that is all that we can see or focus upon. That is when we doggedly peruse a path that is wrong for us that will lead us to where we do not want to be. A path that will cause us to lose what we love and need most in our lives. A road that can bring harm to us and to others. All because we want it and are not looking for the right road.
All because we know that we are right!
How do we know what do to open?
Simple, we will have no need to try to open it.
When we find the right door, when we begin down the right path, when we reach those forks in the road, the right way, the right direction will be open to us, and we will be able to see it clear as day. Everything will just come together, for us.
It is like doing a jigsaw puzzle, we struggle to put the pieces together, checking the picture to see if we are doing it right, then there is that one piece that we place and everything then becomes clear to us, and what took us hours before we can now finish in a matter of minutes.
When we step on that right path, things come together for our benefit, there is no struggle, no pounding on the door. It all just falls into place and we instantly know what to do, which fork in the road to take. It may not be what we want or what our ego says we want. It is what our soul is telling us, that this is the way.
Just because we have now begun the journey though the open door to the correct path, does not necessarily mean that all will be smooth and easy. We will come to more forks in the road, find new pathways going in different directions and our old friend the ego will work to get us off the path that we are on and convince us to try to open a different door and take the wrong fork in the road. We have to remain vigilant against the urging of our ego, and continue to follow our soul, down the good and safe path.
This happened to me recently. Something that I had been looking for, searching for, opened to me, the door was wide open, everything just came together perfectly. It was a dream come true. It was so nice, so easy.
Then my old ego rose its ugly head, and I changed, not necessarily in a bad way, but I was not the same person that I was I made choices that were wrong, I tried to force open doors that were closed and I paid the price, I lost one of the best things that had ever happened to me. Then once lost, when the door was slammed in my face, my ego tried to break though the door once again, but it could not.
As we attempt to navigate through our lives, the constant struggle that we face, is the soul against the ego. We will win some, others we will not. We will find the open door, other times we will stop looking and force our way through a locked one. Now that we know how to make the right choices and decisions in life, the hope is that we will keep looking and find those open ones more often than we try to force ourselves though the locked ones. It can be difficult at times, and it can be hard to understand and do this on our own. If this is a struggle for you, if you find yourself constantly pounding on locked doors and ending up where you do not want to be. If your life is not what you hoped for and dreamed of, go to my website, Yourfulfilledlife.com and sign up for a session or two and we can work though this together.