• Kevin Luke

Time to take control of your life “Start living by taking back the control of your life now!

“Start living by taking back the control of your life now! Create a life more in tune with your true desires.” Steven Redhead

  • The world is spinning out of control, please stop or slow down

  • It seems like I’m running, running and running, but I get nothing done

  • There are not enough hours in a day to get everything done

  • I don’t have any time to myself to do the things that I want to do

  • I’m stressed, tired, not sleeping, there is so much that I just must get done

These are signs that you are under stress, or distress. Webmd said the following:

"The human body is designed to experience stress and react to it. Stress can be positive ("eustress") -- such as a getting a job promotion or being given greater responsibilities -- keeping us alert and ready to avoid danger. Stress becomes negative ("distress") when a person faces continuous challenges without relief or relaxation between challenges. As a result, the person becomes overworked and stress-related tension builds."

"Distress can lead to physical symptoms including headaches, upset stomach, elevated blood pressure, chest pain, and problems sleeping. Research suggests that stress also can bring on or worsen certain symptoms or diseases." webmd, the effects of stress on your body

It seems like everyone is stressed out these days. Road rage, drug and alcohol abuse are just signs of the underlying problem in our society. Its time that we take our lives back. step back relax and get your life grounded once again.

I have found, and I’m sure you will agree, that stress, or distress comes when you feel out of control of your life and become overwhelmed with what is going on to and around you. Demands are placed on you, not by yourself, but by others. These demands can come from many areas:

  • Demands at work, from your boss

  • Your customers and fellow workers

  • Demands at school

  • Demands from your spouse or significant other

  • Demands from your children

  • Demands from your parents

  • Demands from your friends

  • Demands from the government

And demands that you place on yourself, because you think you must make everyone happy

Yes, there are some demands of others that we should abide by, we need to be in control of ourselves, so we do not lose control of our life.

I know I often have put the demands of others over my own needs or over what I wanted. All to often we can receive conflicting demands, one person wants one thing from us and another wants something else. It can be hard to choose one over another, so you try to do both and in the end both people are disappointed in you. I know at times I put some demands of others over my wishes, but by doing so I put those demands over the need of my family, wife and kids. For me I thought that it was no problem, a little less time here a little less time there, I could do everything. In the end though it caused pain and separation. I was not only hurting myself, but also those around me.

I know I was stressed, not sleeping well. I was not giving the attention to my family as I should. I was running for this and that and not getting anything done. I did not have my own life, but was living according to everyone else.

Sometimes you just want to toss everything and just run away and hide from everything. We don’t though, we can’t, we just keep going back for more, and more. The stresses just keep coming and piling up. We wonder why we get sick, we feel old before our time, why we can’t sleep at night. I know I have tried many things to help me sleet, one thing that has worked is meditation music.

We often feel that we must please everyone, the problem with that is when we try to please everyone, we please no one, least of all ourselves

I know, I did this for a long time, to long, and it got me into trouble, more than once. You can read a little about it in my book bothpaperback and kindle.

The thing is when you try to please everyone they are never satisfied, they just want more and more.

Did you ever have it where at first you go out of your way to do something nice, then before long they start expecting it of you and when you don’t do what they want they just get mad at you, because you are not doing what they want, when they want it.

I know some will reference the bible, and the teachings o Jesus to explain why or to use as an excuse why they run for others all the time. Yes the Lord Jesus said that we should help others, this is true. He did not say though that we should help others so much that it leads to our own detriment. Here is an example:

Jesus said that if you have two coats and you brother has none, take one of yours and give it to him that both of you can be clothed.

He did not say if you have a coat and your bother has none give him your coat so he has one and you don't.

His teaching was if you have extra give it to those that have none. He did not say give away all that you have. The same goes for our time and energy. If we have extra time, yes if someone needs our help, by all means help them, but do not feel guilty if you have no time and cannot help.

At times you feel like a puppet, being controlled by other ideas and opinions. There are to many out there that believe that everyone should do what they do, think as they think and have the same opinions as they do, and if you don’t, they will verbally assault you, launch personal attacks against you. On social media they will “unfriend” or “block “ you all because you don’t agree with the or you said something that was not according to what they believe.

We can’t live our lives according to how others believe we should live it. There are those who will try to control every aspect of your life, tell you in detail everything you need to do like you don’t know anything or how to do anything.

It can be easy to fall into the trap of letting others control us. To often we may not recognize it until it’s to late. We start living our lives according to the wishes of others. We start trying to conform to how they think we should be.

We are no longer ourselves or living our life, but a weak clone of someone else.

stop letting other people’s opinions control you, is a good article from the Huffington post. We. Only have one life to live, our life, not someone else’s. Please don’t waste anymore of your precious time living someone else’s life

We are not robots, everyone is a different, unique individual, with their own positives and yes, negatives. No one is perfect and contains all knowledge and wisdom. It is our differences and uniqueness which makes society strong and vibrant.

Each individual has had their own set of life experiences that has made them who they are. These life experiences have set their values and made each one special. Each one has their own abilities and talents and we can learn from them if we only open our eyes and ears and not try to force ourselves upon others.

It can be a mixed bag when you begin to pull away and live your own life. for the first time you are making your own decisions and not just listening to others. It can be lonely at first because you are by yourself. Everything is your responsibility. On the same note it will become invigorating. Your self confidence will grow and you will gain a better image of yourself as you for the first time in your life become your own person.

This process can take years as you start to break free, then again fall into your own habits. It is a great help to have someone with you, to support and guide you though this process. That is where a life coach is very helpful.

In my life coaching sessions, I don’t try to force what I believe upon you. I will not tell you what to do but we will expire your values, thoughts and work on what you want not what I want. If you find yourself out if control of your life. That you have fallen into the trap of letting others control you, that is something we can work on. Check out my website and the services I offer and see how I can help you yourfulfiledlife.com

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Time to take control of your life